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Bereavement & Sympathy Gifts
When someone you care about is grieving, a sympathy gift says what’s hard to say out loud: I’m thinking of you, and of them. Our bereavement gifts are remembrance candles, made to order with the name of the person they lost or a few words from you, and shipped straight to their door.
What makes a good bereavement gift
The best sympathy gifts have three things in common. They are personal: they name the person who died, or say something only you would say. They last: flowers fade in a week, often just as the cards stop coming. And they ask nothing: no thank-you note required, no instructions, nothing to look after.
A remembrance candle does all three. It can be lit on the evening it arrives, or saved for the anniversary, and it burns for 60–80 hours, so it is there for many hard evenings to come.
Sympathy gift ideas for every loss
Each guide has wording ideas, the dates that tend to be hardest, and what to write.
Loss of a father
For someone facing their first Father’s Day without him.
Memorial gifts for the loss of a father →Loss of a husband
For a widow, in the first year and after.
Memorial gifts for the loss of a husband →Words for a sympathy candle
If you don’t know their loved one’s name, a gentle line works just as well. Tap one to start a candle with it.
When to send a sympathy gift
There is no wrong time. Many people send something in the first days after a death. But the weeks after the funeral, when visitors go home and the house gets quiet, are often when a gift means most. The first anniversary, birthdays and the first holidays are good moments too.
Orders ship in 4–6 days, so if you want it to arrive for a specific date, order about a week ahead.
What to write with a bereavement gift
- “I’m so sorry. I’m thinking of you.”
- “Sending love to you and your family.”
- “I didn’t know what to say, so I hope this says it for me.”
- “For the evenings you want to feel them close.”
We don’t include gift notes at checkout, so send your message separately, or add a short line to the candle itself.
Questions about bereavement gifts
What is an appropriate bereavement gift?
Something personal that lasts and asks nothing of the person grieving. A remembrance candle with their loved one’s name, or a gentle line like “Thinking of You”, is one of the most common and well-received choices.
When should I send a sympathy gift?
Any time is right. The weeks after the funeral are often when people feel most alone, and anniversaries and holidays are good moments to show you remember too.
Can I send it directly to them?
Yes. Enter their address as the shipping address at checkout. Orders ship in 4–6 days.
Can I send the same candle to several family members?
Yes. Order the same design for each family member: 2, 3 or 4 candles save $7, $13 or $24, and shipping is free from 3 candles.
Do you offer sympathy gifts for businesses or funeral homes?
Yes. Funeral homes can order personalized or logo-branded candles by the case of 12. See our candles for funeral homes.